The risk of pornography on sexual assault, #metoo and survivors

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The Kavanaugh hearings have brought forth a great deal of controversy and introspection on sexual assaults and harassment in the United States.  Regardless of which side of the debate you find yourself on sexual assault is a serious matter and one that requires all of us to ask more questions.

There used to be a saying in the criminal world “honor among thieves.”  It appears that honor has flown out the proverbial window long ago.  Sexual liberation, feminism, TV ratings, music, advertising, and pornography have all pushed the boundaries, but none more so than pornography.

Pornography, in the name of greed, has pushed the boundaries and changed the landscape of normalcy as it relates to sexual abuse, assault, rape, incest, and molestation.  While I wanted to publish a photograph here of some of the titles of pornographic videos on free websites, I couldn’t find a classy way to do it here.

The sites tout criminal behavior

One of these sites boasts more than 6 million videos.  Type in the word “teacher,” and you get 7,525 results.  Type in the word “force,” and you get 1278 results.  18000 results for “sister” and 27993 results for “mom” and 15653 results for “daughter”, 8,222 results for “student”.  The results are much lower for “priest” and “nun.”  And this is just one of more than hundreds of these types of sites.

While the Supreme Court has ruled that role-playing these characters on film do not necessarily constitute a crime (while what they are portraying is) the lasting result on young viewers minds is wildly different.

And it doesn’t just stop at young minds either.  The ramifications and dopamine hit on older minds are just as high. Seeing these images on a routine basis changes the sense of normal in the minds of humans.  And that means when these minds re-enter their public lifestyle, the thoughts, attractions and dopamine rushes remain with them.  And that leads to things like inappropriate behavior, molestation, forced sex, casual sex, a lack of sexual boundaries and all of which manifest itself in sexual harassment claims in the workplace.

It takes two to tango

It’s no wonder that we see instances of priests molesting altar boys and teachers molesting students and sexual harassment in the workplace.  The pornography industry and the advertising should reconsider the images and videos they sell – just because you can doesn’t mean you should.  And while these folks are responsible, there also lies responsibility on the part of women, because it takes two to tango.

For every one of those scenes, a woman agrees to roleplay/act out the part.  They submit to portraying the forced, the molested, the sister, the mom, the teacher, and the statutory rapist.  This is the problem that plagues #metoo and #believesurvivors.  Advocate groups need to focus on getting their members to stop agreeing to play these roles; to stop portraying to the youth that this is acceptable behavior.

Dating sites too

And it doesn’t just stop at pornography; it continues on sites such as Tinder, Bumble and other hookup style dating apps.  This leads people to forgo conversation in real life, to forget about what’s on the inside of a person and boil it down to looks or sexual desire.  Put that in the workplace, and you have a cocktail of harassment.

After playing the character in American Beauty, is it any wonder that Kevin Spacey was accused of sleeping with a minor?

The point

So, you are asking yourself, what is the point of all this.  What does it have to do with risk management?  The point is that risk management is in a unique position to bring people back to reality.  We have essential programs in place for mental health, wellness, bullying, neglect and drug, and alcohol abuse.  What we need to focus on is bringing in resources, talks, educational seminars and mental health programs that revolve around an addiction to pornography, loneliness, dating and quality relationships between men and women.

Risk management can help seek out health benefits for men that deal with these issues.  From action therapy under EAP or direct line counseling and treatment from experts like J.K. EMEZI, Sex, and Porn Addiction Recovery Mentor, risk management can help lead the way to reduce sexual harassment problems in the workplace.

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